Kind of a late post, considering that it’s already halfway through January 2019, but I’ve decided to gather up some of the things I learned throughout the previous year. These past 12 months have honestly been so fast-paced and full of so many events that have molded me little by little, here and there. So, without further ado, here’s what this year has taught me.
1. Slow & Steady Really Works
At least so far. Career-wise, I’ve been trying to build up my portfolio before graduating, and as a Communications major, it is very important to get as much experience as possible. However, to get that experience, you really do have to seek it out on your own, and at times, that can be difficult to do. Well, I’m happy to say things have only been heading up with every task/job. I may not necessarily be super successful right off the bat, but I hope that I can achieve that success with time and consistent effort.
2. Some Friendships Will Die
But the important ones will become more and more evident. I am avid believer of quality over quantity and think that your greatest friends will remain while all of the temporary ones come and go. Also, if someone is not giving back the same effort and time you’re putting into them, then it’s probably best to let that person go. If not, you may just be wasting your own energy on them, when you could be using it on a person who actually cares about you in an equal manner. As you weed out the flakes and the fakes, your truest friendships will stand out more clearly.
3. Health Is Wealth
My roommate always says this, and it’s totally true. I’ve never been one who gets sick easily and consider myself pretty strong, physically. I don’t mean in the sense that I’m the fittest person ever, but in the sense that I can handle a lot of strain on my body and still function decently well. I myself need to be more active about taking care of myself, but as of right now, I’m just fortunate to be as healthy as I am. Always realize that health is important and something every person should consider a priority at all times.
4. Drop The Things That Make You Unhappy
This is pretty self-explanatory, but it’s usually easier said than actually done. For a while now, I had been debating to drop this one organization of mine that gave me nothing but stress and bad vibes. I used to really enjoy it a lot, but things changed over the past year and half.
5. Time Heals
Like many people, my collapse of my very first relationship left me in a pretty bad state. Not only was it extremely unhealthy, but it also gave me a bad perception of romantic love. Since my ex was my first love, I never thought I’d truly be able to get over everything, but I was wrong. Like many people, I just had to give myself plenty of time to heal. Now, after over a year, I can say with confidence that I’ve completely moved on. I’ve let go of all my grudges and no longer dwellover the past. In fact, I’ve even moved on to a better (for me) and healthier relationship with someone else.
6. A Good Relationship ≠ No Effort
Like I said, this fairly new relationship is the complete opposite of my previous one. I’m actually compatible with my partner now and actually want to be a better person when I’m with him. Even so, just because things are going really well doesn’t mean that either one of us can just sit back and take each other for granted. I have learned a lot from the previous relationship and have a lot of faults left in me that I would like to improve upon throughout the current one. After all, people say that the downfall of a relationship occurs when either one or both people stop trying, And I agree – I don’t think you should ever stop trying to impress and care for the other person.
7. Still In Love With BTS
No explanation needed. They’re still my favorite artists and I am still utterly obsessed with them.
8. Adventure Is The Best Medicine
Since it’s my final year of college, I really decided, at the start of the semester, that I’d give these last months my all in terms of enjoying it. This entire first semester, I did my best to truly enjoy nearby places, hike at cool outdoor locations here and there (I’ve actually become quite the nature girl), and travel around with good friends. For example, I even took a semi-spontaneous (and fairly budget-friendly) day-trip to Las Vegas, and I have absolutely no regrets about doing so. Adventures are honestly so good for the mind, body, soul, and sometimes, you really just need that breath of fresh air to truly feel alive.
9. Prioritize Family More
The older I get, the more amazing my family appears to be. I always loved them dearly and treasured them, of course, but I never truly realized just how much I missed them until college. At the end of the day, your family members are the ones who will stick by your side through thick and thin (at least, if you’re all on good terms) and are the ones who will love you unconditionally. Without the love and support of my mom, dad, and sister, I have no idea where I would be today. So yeah, I definitely am trying to call them more and keep in contact as often as possible (even though sometimes I forget).
10. Uncertainty Is Okay
I admit, I am the worst when it comes to bringing myself down, especially when I feel anxious about the future. Almost each and every day, I wonder about my life later down the line, and it does nothing but psyche me out. However, I have learned (and am still learning) that it is okay not to have everything little detail planned out. After all, plans tend to always change, and at the end of the day, as long as you have your main goals set in mind and work hard towards them, things should work alright (or at least I hope so). Bottom line is to not worry about it all too much and just focus on being a better you in 2019!
Bisous à tous! ♡